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There is probably no worse feeling than finding out that your partner has cheated on you. At that point, it doesn’t really matter with whom or how many times, as the feeling of betrayal is still the same. When it comes to men, we often start questioning ourselves and even our masculinity, trying to get to the bottom of this affair. Was it something we’re guilty of? Why do women cheat at all? Well, there are a number of reasons this can happen, so before you start blaming yourself again, try to consider all the options. We’ll offer you some help there.
Relationship Dissatisfaction
OK, let’s deal with the most difficult prospect right away. One of the reasons women usually cheat is that they’re unhappy in a relationship or marriage. This doesn’t mean that you’ve somehow failed to satisfy her, but that the initial spark has died off and the love is slowly fading. In these situations, most men and women aren’t brave enough to face the problem head on and simply break up. The longer you are in a relationship, the harder it gets to break it off and start anew. So, they start searching for someone (perhaps even unconsciously) that would be a better suiting partner, without actually ending the current relationship since it serves as something of a safety net. Of course, this type of behavior is not fair to anyone involved, but it still happens.
Lack of Intimacy
While the first one may not have been your fault, this one pretty much is. A relationship is not possible without intimacy, you’re probably aware of that. This means both emotional and sexual intimacy. Don’t think that your girlfriend doesn’t like the sex as much as you do, but perhaps not for the same reasons. To her, it is both the pleasure and the feeling of bonding on an emotional level. If you deny her that or don’t have enough time for her needs, it might actually drive her away. Of course, intimacy also includes doing various activities with her. Share some of your hobbies with her or take up one of hers. Even if you don’t like it very much, she will appreciate the effort and established intimacy.
Sexual Excitement
Of course, the other, more tangible part of sex is, obviously, sexual pleasure. As much as she might deny it, no woman is immune to it. They can enjoy sex much more than men as they are capable of longer, multiple orgasms and have a number of erogenous zones throughout their bodies. Because of that, it is not unthinkable that they get the desire to explore their sexuality to the max with someone else if it’s not quite extensive with you. This doesn’t mean that it’s your fault, though. It just means that you two have different sexual sensibilities and aren’t meant to be together. Again, this doesn’t actually justify their infidelity but merely explains it better.
Male Attention
On the other hand, just the thought of being desirable is a motivation enough for some women. Admittedly, we all secretly want to be liked by others, both in a romantic and non-romantic sense, but we rarely sacrifice our relationships for it. However, some women enjoy the attention they get from other men so much that they can’t (or won’t) stop at some casual flirting but need to go at least one step beyond. Human beings are, in general always envious of others and desire what they can’t have. The problem with it is that the feeling remains even when you act upon it. The same can be applied to relationships. The attention of other men seems more tempting to a woman simply because they’re someone other than her boyfriend/husband. That thrill, however, is not long-lasting and only leads to problems.
Boredom
All right, we get that this might be the most trivial reason on the list, but you shouldn’t disregard it simply because it sounds ridiculous. Yes, boredom usually connects with work procrastination and general laziness, but it can certainly be a reason why some women cheat. Sometimes even the most perfect of relationships crumble because certain people aren’t capable of functioning in a boring, uneventful relationship where everything is predictable and monotonous. This is just their nature, so there’s nothing you can really do about it.
Hopefully, we’ve answered one of the oldest questions people ask – why do women cheat? We understand you might not like the answers, but it’s the hard truth.
